Throughout my life I struggled with worrying too much. Always thinking “What if I’m not good enough?”, “What if I fail?”, “What if..?”. It was tearing me apart. Making me hold myself back. I kept thinking that if I was not doing anything, then nothing could go wrong. Right?
What if I f*cked it all up?
This is where I was so completly off. Doing NOTHING at all is what went wrong. Doing nothing at all was the dumbest idea I have ever had. By doing this I just compressed myself into nothingnessssssss…
— And when I was working with other people I was afraid to do anything or take action; what if I f*cked it all up? But all that led to was either people not wanting to work with me. Or we never got anywhere. Stuck in the same hole. One day, I finally I told my self that this had to stop. I was not going anywhere. My mindset did not help me in any way. It just protected me against the very best teacher of great knowledge: failure.
So I started thinking more about my actions and weighed the losses and winnings of everything I did. And as I have always been interested in science and nature. The study of evolution quickly came my way. I started researching how humans work. Why we do the things we do and act the way we do. How it was all connected to randomness, natural selection, and evolution. Since then, I have built upon and built upon my findings and philosophies.
What emotions are made for is to help you survive.
And today I have become in complete control over my feelings. I do not worry anymore. Whenever the thought *pops* up in my head, I ask myself, “what good does it bring to my life?” This helps me instantly remove it, because worrying does absolutely no good at all. It will only create negative energy harming you mind.
As I see many people living the same way I did. And experiencing the same negative energy and horror our society has put into us. I have decided to create a 4-step guide for you to get closer to becoming unstoppable, unwavering, and unshakeable.
A Small Guide For GREATNESS
Step 1: Study evolution — and apply it to today’s society and people.
With evolution I am mostly focusing on natural selection which is a process where those who survive long enough to reproduce, are the ones who get to forward their genes in the population.
This is important to study, as you will understand why yourself and people react the way they do. You will hereby be able to read people and understand their intentions. Even more important is that you will be able to understand why you do what you do from an evolutionary and logical standpoint.
More on why this is powerful and important under the next point.
Step 2: Understand the evolutionary reason for why we have emotions.
When you have a big enough understanding of evolution, you can now deduce the reason for why we even have emotions. While all human traits exist because it made humans more likely to reproduce (natural selection), we must also have developed emotions to achieve this goal.
Therefore, what emotions are made for, is to help you survive — and reproduce. And this checks out. In science it is already accepted that happiness is a tool that tells you that you are on the right path for survival or reproduction. You get happy when you do stuff that helps you survive or reproduce.
When you:
Eat
Succeed
Bond
Fear tells you that you probably should not do ‘it’, as it may harm your survival chance. Although this is the case, it almost always misses.
When you feel fear, it does not mean you KNOW that ‘it’ will harm you.
All it means is that your brain THINKS that you are alive right now, so why do something new?
It does not know that by trying the *new* it might actually get you out of the hole you are stuck in. This is a common problem with emotions — they are not logical. Only probability-aware.
Step 3: Learn to be in control of your emotions — instead of your emotions being in control of you.
As I said before, emotions are not logical — they do not think. Your brain and emotions often do not want change. If you have SURVIVED so far, why change things up? It neglects the fact that you can still survive for many years even though it is sufferable and DOES need change.
So learn to be in control of your emotions. There is literally no reason to let “non-thinkers” be in control of your life — because they are not thinking! Examine your options with logic and you will be much better. Examine your emotions and only allow the ones that make your life better — no reason to nurture negativity or self-harm.
Step 4: Always pressure yourself.
Pressuring yourself is a neat little trick that helps you get control over your feelings. If you keep pressuring yourself beyond your safety net, you will slowly get used to saying “no” to your feelings. If you can control your feelings, then whenever a negative emotion or thought enters your mind, you can just remove it. Focus on the emotions that give you happiness, willpower, and motivation. If you do not remove your negative thoughts, you will just fear, worry, or feel bad about everything. And when you are spending your time making yourself feel worse, you are not going to have any productivity.
So, seek the feelings that make you feel good!